I was recently sharing DWD with someone in person, so I’m not transcribing notes but am writing this from memory. While I likely don’t have everything 100% accurate, this is a reasonable recollection of part of the session.

We were about halfway through the session and she was going deeper and deeper. At one point in response to the question, “What are you noticing now?” She sighed a big sigh and said she was feeling a big wave of sadness pass through her. Sometimes in situations like this there is the feeling of sadness followed by some welcome tears. This was not the feeling here.  When I asked if it was OK to stay with Sadness, she said she had been defending against this all day. It had not been safe for her to feel it and even though she felt  safe in the session, she felt tremendous Resistance to crying at that time. I felt a brief impulse of wondering if it would be good for her to cry, and then quickly realized that she had already given me everything I needed to know. She had Sadness AND she had Resistance to expressing Sadness.  Nothing more needed to happen.  Both could be here and nothing needed to be changed or further resolved—because both were there and ‘equal’ both should stay.  So, I repeated what she had said, “And a big wave of Sadness is here, and Resistance to expressing Sadness is also here. Is there more to say now, or would you like to rest in silent Reiki?” Silent Reiki was the response and we were quiet for 3-5 minutes. When I then asked her what she was noticing, she said a lot had been happening. Separation had disappeared and she could feel a kind of ……Oneness… with green and brown (the other colors were inherent in them), with water, with everything. There was no tension of feeling that she should or shouldn’t cry, she was deeply at ease. The rest of the session was mostly quiet with Reiki flowing and “weaving in, through, and around her.”

At the end of the session when we had our final conversation, that point was one we talked about again. For her to be herself, just as she was, without having to even decide anything one way or another, to have room for both strong feelings to be there just as they were, was SO powerful for her and for me. I was once again grateful for this practice of DWD where there is the ability to be with what is without the binary of “this” or “that.” What a relief to just be able to be ourselves with all our full complexities and contradictions.